I will let the video (and my anxiety-driven higher-pitched voice) speak for itself. A warning: It is an assault narrative – it is not explicitly violent, but it may trigger strong emotions/memories (far too many people have had similar experiences).

Please watch before reading the short passage that follows (and let’s just ignore the thumbnail all together :D).

I had lived 37 years presenting as a man without ever being a target of assault. And the times I had faced the possibility of violence, it had not been the sort of predatory behavior as I describe in the story, grounded in the power imbalances our society creates around gender.

The experience described in the story occurred after spending fewer than 24 hours total in public with a feminine presentation. That contrast – 37 years, 24 hours – should speak volumes.

To end on a happier note, here’s the Instagram post where I publicly came out as genderqueer (for anyone wondering what I look like as a pretty princess :D)

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"On Wednesdays we wear pink." – Karen Smith⁣ ⁣ Which outfit should I wear tomorrow? πŸ˜‰ A pair of #selfportraits for #transformationtuesday. I tried to do as little retouching as possible on these (that's my actual, ruddy-ass complexion on the left – hey, we're wearing #pink, right? πŸ˜†)⁣ ⁣ That's because this #wasntjustforthephoto – I'm proudly #genderqueer 🌈 (cisman, #gendernonconforming #crossdresser). This is essentially my public #comingout – certainly in any professional setting. Glad you could join me! β€οΈπŸ’›πŸ§‘πŸ’šπŸ’™πŸ’œβ£ ⁣ A special thanks to all the people who loved and supported me as I figured out this part of myself over the past few years (the second photos are from my first public outing and my first ever full #transformation, respectively). I don't know if they want to be mentioned by name, so I'll give a bunch of initials. In no particular order other than the first two who were my 'security blankets' on my first times in public: HH & CBW (πŸ’!), CC, RS, LS, SC, GS/SS, RG & LG, GL, PG, DS, DL, PR, JB, LF & Crew. Hat-tip to both Michael Brassem who gave me my first makeup lesson and @victorialyn whose looks inspired this one (though hers are a million times better – she's basically a sorcerer πŸ˜† – I'm happy enough with how it turned out to tag her to say thanks for all her videos/tutorials)⁣ ⁣ #pride #lgbtq #lgbtq🌈 #lgbt #queer #bornthisway (though it took me three+ decades to figure it out 😫😁) #community #lgbtqcommunity (in addition to those above, everyone was so awesome at my first #lapride last year) #onwednesdayswewearpink #meangirls #selfportrait #ringlight #diversity #instalgbt #queerisbeautiful #selfportrait

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